Top 10 Dating Mistakes

Being in the dating business for the last ten, almost eleven years, we at Table for Two have heard feedback from thousands of first dates.  First dates are tough!  There is often a lot of anxiety and people can say and do things that are outside their normal character because their nerves get the better of them.   Sometimes it just helps to hear what is and is not acceptable on a first date.  Our tips are all common sense; but, if you review them periodically, you may avoid the all too common foot-in-mouth syndrome!

#10)  Don’t go into a first date with undue pressure on the outcome.  The best outcome of a first date, is a second date!  If you go into a first date with the expectation that you are on your way to meet your future spouse, you are setting yourself up for disaster and you will appear desperate.  Be open and relaxed and go into the date hoping to meet a new friend.  If you are attracted to each other as friends, then the next steps will follow.  Discover that spark through getting to know each other.  Don’t force it!


May 1st, 2008 Posted by Matt

Your Clothes: How to Get that “Put Together” Look

One of the most common questions I get is “Amy, how do I get that ‘put together’ or ‘polished’ look?”  The answer is easier than you think.  Two of the biggest fashion myths are:

1.) That if the clothes don’t fit you off the rack, then there’s something wrong with your body.

WRONG! There’s something funky about the garment, be it cut, color or fabric.

2.) That you have to spend a lot of money to look good.

WRONG! All you need is a good tailor. 


April 28th, 2008 Posted by Amy

Happiness: The Inside-Out Spring Makeover

Have you ever noticed people are more drawn to you when you feel good? Do you feel more confident when you are happy? Have you ever watched an ordinary looking person transform into sheer beauty when taken over by a genuine smile? Happy people are attractive regardless of their physical endowments. Do you know what it is that makes you happy? Here are some thoughts:

  • Shift your focus. Think of what it is that you can do right now to create the life you want. If you think your boss, brother, neighbor, fellow driver or friend are responsible for how you feel, think again. You’re the one in charge. You choose the thoughts which give rise to feelings, which in turn create your reality. Stop the blame-game, you won’t win. Instead, ask yourself what you can do to fix a situation that brings you down.
  • Take care of your body. When our physical needs are unmet, we tend to feel tired and worn out rather than happy. Adequate sleep, proper relaxation, as well as healthy nutrition and regular exercise go a long way in promoting a sense of well-being.
  • Pay attention to your emotions. Thoughts create feelings, and–like it or not–feelings make most of our day-to-day decisions. When you notice your emotions are turbulent, get help. Find a trusted friend or a professional to help you take a closer look at the problem.
  • Feed your soul. In my work with terminally ill patients I learned this: the love we give and receive is the only thing that matters. All else is non-essential. You cannot possibly miss the purpose of your life when you cultivate compassion—love’s life blood.
  • Cultivate relationships. People are happier, healthier and more resilient when they have a strong support system of friends and family. We all need that shoulder to lean on from time to time. Be good to your friends. Fix broken family ties. Forgive and let go; it will make you light enough to move forward.

April 22nd, 2008 Posted by Christa

Accessories Can Affect A First Impression

People often don’t give much thought to their accessories until it’s time to use them in front of others they’re trying to impress.  Case in point the gentleman that goes to reach for his wallet only to have to use both hands to pry the overstuffed billfold out of his back pocket and once accessed, it’s barely held together by the original stitching. 

Or take the lady who goes to retrieve her car keys only to end up elbow-deep at the bottom of her handbag/totebag/briefcase/lunch sack relying on the senses of touch and hearing to find them.


April 21st, 2008 Posted by Amy

Easy spring (no really, it MUST be spring!) closet clean-outs

Okay, so spring’s here (I swear) & I think everyone can agree that we’ve just all about had it with this weather. I know I have. So I’m going to challenge you to do a little spring cleaning in your clothes closets only I’m gonna help make it easy for you.

When I’m working with clients, ideally, I like to be able to view all of their inventory so we can take stock of what’s worthy of their precious closet real estate. The closets of my dreams have 3 key things…


1 comment April 14th, 2008 Posted by Amy

You’re dating again. You’re feeling great. Don’t ditch the kids.

You’ve experienced the ups and downs of single parenthood. Recently, you have come to the conclusion to put yourself out there on the dating scene again. You’ve decided to stop putting your happiness on hold and give this thing called “relationship” another go. You’re looking for the right person with whom you can share a happy and healthy life. Fantastic! Now—what about those kids? How much should they know about what you’re up to? (more…)

April 9th, 2008 Posted by Christa

50+ Dating Scene

More than 25 million baby boomers are single, according to recent studies. But if you’re 50+ and new to the dating scene – or simply tired of meeting the wrong types of people – it’s not always easy to find potential mates who fit your needs.

Some baby boomers try local pickup joints, which are typically filled with 20-somethings who seem like they’re speaking another language. And even the most dedicated 50+ single can get overwhelmed by the pumping music, the pierced noses and lips, and the sheer number of young people who pour into these clubs like lemmings to a cliff.


1 comment February 3rd, 2008 Posted by Matt

Table for Two Now Offering Coaching

MINNEAPOLIS, Oct. 9, 2007 — Table for Two (, an upscale Twin Cities dating service, is now offering its clients the option of meeting with relationship coaches who are licensed counselors and marriage and family therapists to delve into a person’s relationship goals and how they can be most successful in finding a mate.

When Table for Two President Matt Goldberg bought the dating service last April, he said he saw an opportunity to incorporate a wellness component into the business that he says is missing from other Minnesota dating services, and particularly online dating services. By providing his clients with the option to meet in-depth with a licensed counselor or marriage and family therapist, Goldberg says Table for Two is taking a decidedly more holistic approach to matchmaking, one that allows the client to begin dating from a much more confident place. Choosing to meet with a relationship coach, which is an optional, add-on service for Table for Two clients, Goldberg says gives clients the opportunity to build upon the strengths they bring to a relationship.


October 9th, 2007 Posted by Matt

Table for Two Dating Service Under New Ownership

MINNEAPOLIS, Sept. 20, 2007 — Table for Two (, an upscale Twin Cities dating service that has been locally owned and operated for more than 10 years, is under new ownership.

Matt Goldberg, formerly president of the Stems & Vines chain of local floral stores, took ownership of Table for Two in April 2007. While Table for Two has built a reputation as an upscale, highly personalized dating service over the past decade, Goldberg said he saw an opportunity to incorporate a wellness philosophy into the business that would differentiate it from other Minnesota dating services, and particularly online dating services. His first step in implementing that wellness philosophy has been to provide clients with the option of meeting with relationship coaches who are licensed counselors and marriage and family therapists to truly delve into a person’s relationship goals and how they can be most successful.


September 20th, 2007 Posted by Matt

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